I can understand why people ask the question: due diligence. If I’m dating someone, and their marriage ended because they cheated on their husband, that seems like relevant information . . . IF I believe the adage: once a cheater, always a cheater.

In other words, the question implies that we are prisoners of our past.

I agree with you that it would be interesting to form a relationship without getting hung up on history. Thanks for your thoughts and encouragement!